Thursday, June 7, 2012
Building Inner Beauty Pageant this Saturday!!
I can't believe that the Building Inner Beauty Pageant is this Saturday!! All of the ladies participating are fabulous, driven, and goal orientated. It is such an honor that I have been asked to be the Mistress of Ceremonies and a Pageant Coach to the girls. This has truly been a life changing experience. It has been fabulous working with every contestant and the BIB Dream Team leading up to the pageant. I know we are going to have a fabulous pageant day and I can't wait to see how each each contestant has grown from the Meet and Great to the after pageant party. Keep your eyes posted for pictures from the event and the new Building Inner Beauty Queens.
The pageant is free to the public so you are more then welcome to come and join in the excitement at the Plano Courtyard Theatre. The pageant starts at 6:30pm!
Rustie J
22nd Annual Komen Plano Race for the Cure on Saturday, June 9th
Make sure you come out and support breast cancer education and research on June 9th on The HP Campus on Legacy. Not only can you learn more about breast cancer warning signs and advancements in treatments but you can also get your cardio on (a key way to live a healthy lifestyle). Look for me and my fellow pageant sister with our crowns on walking for a great cause!
Do you know all of the warning signs for breast cancer? (Hint: it's not just about lumps!)
1. Lump in the breast or underarm
2. Swelling, warmth, redness or darkening of the breast
3. Change in size or shape of the breast
4. Dimpling or puckering of the skin
5. Itchy, scaly sore or rash on nipple
6. Pulling of your nipple or other parts of the breast
7. Nipple discharge that starts suddenly
8. New pain in one spot that does not go away
Now you know the warning signs and can do self detection at home. If you have any of these signs, please, don't hesitate go see your doctor right away. The earlier it's detected; the higher survivor rate! So check often.
Rustie J
Do you know all of the warning signs for breast cancer? (Hint: it's not just about lumps!)
1. Lump in the breast or underarm
2. Swelling, warmth, redness or darkening of the breast
3. Change in size or shape of the breast
4. Dimpling or puckering of the skin
5. Itchy, scaly sore or rash on nipple
6. Pulling of your nipple or other parts of the breast
7. Nipple discharge that starts suddenly
8. New pain in one spot that does not go away
Now you know the warning signs and can do self detection at home. If you have any of these signs, please, don't hesitate go see your doctor right away. The earlier it's detected; the higher survivor rate! So check often.
Rustie J
Sunday, June 3, 2012
Miss USA 2012
The Super Bowl of pageants!!!
The opening number were fabulous!! Five different groups with dresses that were to die for. But my favorite dress was Miss Texas (and it's not just because I'm from Texas :) ).
Miss USA Top 16...TN, AL, OH, MI, MD, NJ, TX (YES YES YES!!!!), CO, OK (YES!), LA, ME, GA, SC, RI, NV, and AR...congrats girls!!!
Swimsuit time...all of these ladies look great and are working in on stage!!
Miss USA Top 10...AL, OK (YES!), OH, GA, TX (YES YES YES!!!!), CO, NJ, MD, RI, and NV...congrats...on to evening gown!!
Evening gown...my favorite part... below are my favorite gowns.
The opening number were fabulous!! Five different groups with dresses that were to die for. But my favorite dress was Miss Texas (and it's not just because I'm from Texas :) ).
Miss USA Top 16...TN, AL, OH, MI, MD, NJ, TX (YES YES YES!!!!), CO, OK (YES!), LA, ME, GA, SC, RI, NV, and AR...congrats girls!!!
Swimsuit time...all of these ladies look great and are working in on stage!!
Miss USA Top 10...AL, OK (YES!), OH, GA, TX (YES YES YES!!!!), CO, NJ, MD, RI, and NV...congrats...on to evening gown!!
Evening gown...my favorite part... below are my favorite gowns.
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Miss USA Top 5...GA, NV, RI, MD, and OH...congrats!! Congrats to Brittany Booker Miss Texas USA...you made your state proud!!!
Who will be the next Miss USA?? Time for on-stage interview...they question is are they beautiful and smart...we are about to find out.
GA...spoke well but the answer was not sound
NV...spoke well but the answer was not sound
RI...I think she spoke and answered it very well...nailed it!
MD...spoke well but I don't think she wishy.washy on her answer
OH...spoke well but the answer was not sound
I think RI has it and so does everyone on Facebook. We shall find out very soon...
I LOVE Alyssa Campanella's farewell dress!!!
And the next Miss USA is... 4th runner up is...GA; 3rd runner up is...NV; 2nd runner up is...OH; 1st runner up (and shall take the crown if the winner cannot) is...MD; MISS USA IS RI!!! She nailed the final question and her evening gown is fabulous!!!
Congrats to Rhode Island Miss Olivia Culpo!!! You will represent USA fabulously at Miss Universe!
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| The new Miss USA 2012!! |
Rustie J
Words of Wisdom from Ciji Dodds Miss International 2011
My Top 5 Pageant Tips and Tricks
You would think that by now I would be accustomed to people asking me for advice. I’m not, at all. I still feel weird giving it, but at the same time I realize that if someone is asking me it’s because they trust my opinion. As national’s nears my inbox is getting fuller and fuller. Some questions are recurring and I’ve decided to answer them below.
1. How do you manage appearances while preparing for Nationals?
Do not over exert yourself or else by the time you get to Chicago, you will be wiped out. Make sure your schedule is manageable and affords you plenty of time to do the necessary prep work and keep appearances. The month before Nationals I didn’t make any appearances after July 10, if I remember correctly. I did this to give me time to decompress and to take care of tasks such as alterations, cosmetic appointments, and shopping for last minute wardrobe items. Small tasks such as running to your seamstress takes time, my advice, take as many pieces as possible at one time. You will cut down on gas and headaches. Things can get crazy, but above all else make sure you get enough rest. If you don’t slow down, your body will do it for you, and you don’t want that.
2. What advice do you have regarding interview questions?
Answer the questions. I don’t know how else to say it.
3. I’m having trouble with wardrobe, any tips on how to manage it?
Wardrobe is the never-ending nightmare. My number 1 tip, wear what makes you feel BEAUTIFUL. Pack as few shoes as possible. I love shoes and when I was told to do this I thought I would pass out. However, shoes take up precious space and they make your luggage heavy. Find a couple versatile pairs and make it happen.
As far as organization, make a wardrobe chart, complete with everything from the type of event to accessories and undergarments. You will thank me when you are packing! Also, as a general rule I always pack a couple extra cocktail dresses and an extra evening gown just in case.
4. How do I work on stage presence?
Video tape yourself and have someone who is brutally honest critique you, whether it is your coach, director or friend. Watching yourself is eye opening. So many things can be fixed just by watching yourself on video.
5. I heard that contestants are really busy during Nationals, how do you stay on top of everything?
Organization, organization, organization. When I got to my hotel room, the first thing I did was unpack and hang all my items on a travel clothes bar in accordance with my wardrobe sheet. I steamed and ironed everything at one time. You won’t have the time or energy to steam and iron on a daily basis. If you take care of it first thing, you will save time and frustration. Being on time is extremely important, so it is imperative that you can make quick changes with little fuss. Also, after every event, I immediately prepped for the next one before I did anything else. It’s been my experience that preparation and organization calms the nerves.
Best,
Ciji Dodds
Miss International 2011
1. How do you manage appearances while preparing for Nationals?
Do not over exert yourself or else by the time you get to Chicago, you will be wiped out. Make sure your schedule is manageable and affords you plenty of time to do the necessary prep work and keep appearances. The month before Nationals I didn’t make any appearances after July 10, if I remember correctly. I did this to give me time to decompress and to take care of tasks such as alterations, cosmetic appointments, and shopping for last minute wardrobe items. Small tasks such as running to your seamstress takes time, my advice, take as many pieces as possible at one time. You will cut down on gas and headaches. Things can get crazy, but above all else make sure you get enough rest. If you don’t slow down, your body will do it for you, and you don’t want that.
2. What advice do you have regarding interview questions?
Answer the questions. I don’t know how else to say it.
3. I’m having trouble with wardrobe, any tips on how to manage it?
Wardrobe is the never-ending nightmare. My number 1 tip, wear what makes you feel BEAUTIFUL. Pack as few shoes as possible. I love shoes and when I was told to do this I thought I would pass out. However, shoes take up precious space and they make your luggage heavy. Find a couple versatile pairs and make it happen.
As far as organization, make a wardrobe chart, complete with everything from the type of event to accessories and undergarments. You will thank me when you are packing! Also, as a general rule I always pack a couple extra cocktail dresses and an extra evening gown just in case.
4. How do I work on stage presence?
Video tape yourself and have someone who is brutally honest critique you, whether it is your coach, director or friend. Watching yourself is eye opening. So many things can be fixed just by watching yourself on video.
5. I heard that contestants are really busy during Nationals, how do you stay on top of everything?
Organization, organization, organization. When I got to my hotel room, the first thing I did was unpack and hang all my items on a travel clothes bar in accordance with my wardrobe sheet. I steamed and ironed everything at one time. You won’t have the time or energy to steam and iron on a daily basis. If you take care of it first thing, you will save time and frustration. Being on time is extremely important, so it is imperative that you can make quick changes with little fuss. Also, after every event, I immediately prepped for the next one before I did anything else. It’s been my experience that preparation and organization calms the nerves.
Best,
Ciji Dodds
Miss International 2011
Words of Wisdom from Ciji Dodds Miss International 2011
Appearances Matter
Ok. So the title of my blog is purposefully deceptive. When I use the word “Appearance,” I am talking about titleholder appearances and not the way you look on the outside. Everyone loves a working queen, however, appearances can be exhausting and consuming. At this very moment, my car is filled with my crown, sash, a sack of 30 to 40 books, bookmarks, pens, pencils, autograph cards, 4 pairs of shoes, back-up make-up, a garment bag with 2 just in case I’m a klutz dresses, and a pageant pack of tide pens, safety pins and baby wipes. And yes, I am tired and there have been times when I have wondered whether I was actually making a difference. The short answer is yes, appearances do matter.
Appearances are not only a way to promote your platform. They are a way to connect with people not only in your community but throughout the world. The beauty of appearances is that you never know who you will meet and what your meeting will lead to. I can’t count the number of times that I’ve met someone at an appearance, that resulted in another appearance or even a business opportunity. But most importantly, at each appearance, I usually make a meaningful connection with at least one person, which may not seem like a lot, but over time I like to think it makes a difference. Whether it is in a girl’s perception of her beauty or whether I have encouraged a child to pursue their education, appearances are the heartbeat of your year as a titleholder. So when you’re tired, just remember, Appearances do matter.
Best,
Ciji Dodds
Miss International 2011
Appearances are not only a way to promote your platform. They are a way to connect with people not only in your community but throughout the world. The beauty of appearances is that you never know who you will meet and what your meeting will lead to. I can’t count the number of times that I’ve met someone at an appearance, that resulted in another appearance or even a business opportunity. But most importantly, at each appearance, I usually make a meaningful connection with at least one person, which may not seem like a lot, but over time I like to think it makes a difference. Whether it is in a girl’s perception of her beauty or whether I have encouraged a child to pursue their education, appearances are the heartbeat of your year as a titleholder. So when you’re tired, just remember, Appearances do matter.
Best,
Ciji Dodds
Miss International 2011
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Boxer Mayweather Enters Jail for Domestic Violence Term
This is crap...why did Mayweather get to post-pone this jail time for his domestic violence sentence...because he had a fight. I don't care who or what you have going on. If you abused someone you should have to start your sentence right away. All this tells people is if your rich and/or famous you might be able to get out of abuse charges or serve your time when it's convenitent for them.
June 01, 2012
LAS VEGAS (Reuters) - Boxing champion Floyd Mayweather Jr. was booked into a Las Vegas jail on Friday to serve a 90-day sentence for domestic violence against an ex-girlfriend, a term that was previously postponed so the welterweight fighter could compete in a bout.
Mayweather, a flamboyant athlete regarded as the best defensive boxer of his generation, was issued standard dark blue prison garb and slippers and will be kept apart from the jail's general population of more than 3,000 other inmates, Las Vegas police said.
The unbeaten Mayweather had the start of his jail term delayed in January so he could fight in a May 5 super welterweight bout at the MGM Grand Garden Arena, where he came through 12 bruising rounds to prevail over Puerto Rican boxer Miguel Cotto.
After that contest, improving his professional record to 43-0, Mayweather discussed a possible fight with Manny Pacquiao of the Philippines, his rival for the mythical title of the world's best pound-for-pound fighter.
Fans have been clamoring for a Mayweather-Pacquiao matchup despite such stumbling blocks as Mayweather's insistence that Pacquiao agree to blood testing and disagreement over how the revenue from the fight should be divided.
Mayweather's jail sentence stems from a guilty plea in December to a charge of felony battery and pleas of no contest to two counts of harassment linked to a 2010 attack on his ex-girlfriend, Josie Harris, and verbal threats against two of his children with her.
The decision to delay his serving of the sentence, which was opposed by prosecutors, had been expected to benefit hotels and other businesses in Las Vegas. A major prize fight can generate $10 million to $15 million in non-gambling revenue.
During his time in the Clark County Detention Center, Mayweather will be confined to a cell consisting of a bed, toilet, sink and small desk, with a window to allow direct sunlight into the room, police said in a statement.
He will be allowed two books or magazines in his cell, and up to five religious books, and will be fed three meals a day, starting with breakfast at 4 a.m.
As a protective custody inmate, Mayweather will be kept in his cell while other inmates are on free-time, and will come out for free time for an hour a day while other inmates are on lockdown. During that time, he will have access to a recreation room, police said.
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-06-01/sports/sns-rt-us-usa-mayweather-jailbre851021-20120601_1_mayweather-pacquiao-boxer-mayweather-josie-harris
June 01, 2012
LAS VEGAS (Reuters) - Boxing champion Floyd Mayweather Jr. was booked into a Las Vegas jail on Friday to serve a 90-day sentence for domestic violence against an ex-girlfriend, a term that was previously postponed so the welterweight fighter could compete in a bout.
Mayweather, a flamboyant athlete regarded as the best defensive boxer of his generation, was issued standard dark blue prison garb and slippers and will be kept apart from the jail's general population of more than 3,000 other inmates, Las Vegas police said.
The unbeaten Mayweather had the start of his jail term delayed in January so he could fight in a May 5 super welterweight bout at the MGM Grand Garden Arena, where he came through 12 bruising rounds to prevail over Puerto Rican boxer Miguel Cotto.
After that contest, improving his professional record to 43-0, Mayweather discussed a possible fight with Manny Pacquiao of the Philippines, his rival for the mythical title of the world's best pound-for-pound fighter.
Fans have been clamoring for a Mayweather-Pacquiao matchup despite such stumbling blocks as Mayweather's insistence that Pacquiao agree to blood testing and disagreement over how the revenue from the fight should be divided.
Mayweather's jail sentence stems from a guilty plea in December to a charge of felony battery and pleas of no contest to two counts of harassment linked to a 2010 attack on his ex-girlfriend, Josie Harris, and verbal threats against two of his children with her.
The decision to delay his serving of the sentence, which was opposed by prosecutors, had been expected to benefit hotels and other businesses in Las Vegas. A major prize fight can generate $10 million to $15 million in non-gambling revenue.
During his time in the Clark County Detention Center, Mayweather will be confined to a cell consisting of a bed, toilet, sink and small desk, with a window to allow direct sunlight into the room, police said in a statement.
He will be allowed two books or magazines in his cell, and up to five religious books, and will be fed three meals a day, starting with breakfast at 4 a.m.
As a protective custody inmate, Mayweather will be kept in his cell while other inmates are on free-time, and will come out for free time for an hour a day while other inmates are on lockdown. During that time, he will have access to a recreation room, police said.
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-06-01/sports/sns-rt-us-usa-mayweather-jailbre851021-20120601_1_mayweather-pacquiao-boxer-mayweather-josie-harris
New Washington County Program Aids Domestic Abuse Victims
June 2, 2012
It seems simple, really, but saves lives.
Immediately asking 11 standard questions of domestic abuse victims -- generally women slammed around by men who profess to love them -- has changed Washington County's handling of such cases to the point that Sen. Amy Klobuchar, D-Minn., came to hear about it.
"It's one of the greatest things we've seen in domestic abuse in a long time," County Attorney Pete Orput said of the Lethality Assessment Protocol (LAP), that list of questions police ask of victims in intimate relationships that could head off more beatings -- or even homicides.
Prosecutors, police chiefs, the county sheriff, district judges, probation officers and victim advocates convened at the Washington County Government Center in Stillwater on Thursday to review the novel LAP program that now involves all 10 of the county's law enforcement agencies. The consensus: 300 assessments were accomplished in the first quarter of this year.
"I think we can see a real benefit to asking these questions on the streets," said Sandy Hahn, Washington County's deputy community corrections director who introduced LAP locally in 2010. Her department oversees people on probation for various crimes -- and many of them in trouble for abusing their intimate partners.
The top three questions that police officers ask concentrate on the likelihood that dangerous offenders will escalate violence. Was a weapon used or threatened? Do you think he might kill you? Has he made threats against you or your children?
Klobuchar, a former chief prosecutor in Hennepin County, said domestic disturbances are "fraught with emotion" and the LAP program helps bring a clear-sighted approach to defusing further violence. Victims who score high on the questions -- meaning they're at high risk -- could be taken to a shelter for immediate protection. Various criminal justice agencies, including courts, share the findings.
Police Chief Bill Sullivan of Oakdale told Klobuchar that of 51 LAP assessments made in his city, only one required further police intervention. In most domestic disturbances when nobody is arrested, he said, the situation settles down after police intervene.
"I think we have a far greater concern when there is demonstrable violence that has occurred and an arrest is made," he said in an interview Friday. "The suspect will ultimately be released from jail at some point and we can never accurately predict the suspect's reaction to being arrested after they return home. ... Any tool that we can use to try and help assess potential future violence is very important."
Oakdale and the Washington County Sheriff's Office were the first agencies to start LAP.
Karin McCarthy, a Washington County assistant attorney, said prosecutors can use LAP findings to ask judges for higher bail for abusers, or to successfully argue for tougher release conditions. And victims who have been placed under protection of the domestic violence agency Tubman have shown more willingness to help prosecutors, he said.
In Ramsey County, law enforcement agencies now are being trained for a similar lethality assessment program, said County Attorney John Choi. Adapted from the program "Blueprint for Safety" that Choi started in his previous job as St. Paul's city attorney, the county initiative aims to ensure victim safety and offender accountability.
Quicker intervention in domestic abuse cases means a higher likelihood that defendants can be held accountable because victims are less inclined to become intimidated, Choi said. The program also means more urgency directed at the most dangerous cases, he said.
Washington County District Judge Elizabeth Martin said the LAP program can't save all victims in Washington County from further violence. But the quick sharing of information in dangerous cases, she said, guides judges in their responses to the most troubling offenders.
"One of the things we know about these folks is that they violate, frequently, the conditions of their probation," said Tom Adkins, who heads Washington County's community corrections department. "This is one way for us to say, 'This is one we really need to pay attention to.'"
http://www.startribune.com/local/east/156874195.html
It seems simple, really, but saves lives.
Immediately asking 11 standard questions of domestic abuse victims -- generally women slammed around by men who profess to love them -- has changed Washington County's handling of such cases to the point that Sen. Amy Klobuchar, D-Minn., came to hear about it.
"It's one of the greatest things we've seen in domestic abuse in a long time," County Attorney Pete Orput said of the Lethality Assessment Protocol (LAP), that list of questions police ask of victims in intimate relationships that could head off more beatings -- or even homicides.
Prosecutors, police chiefs, the county sheriff, district judges, probation officers and victim advocates convened at the Washington County Government Center in Stillwater on Thursday to review the novel LAP program that now involves all 10 of the county's law enforcement agencies. The consensus: 300 assessments were accomplished in the first quarter of this year.
"I think we can see a real benefit to asking these questions on the streets," said Sandy Hahn, Washington County's deputy community corrections director who introduced LAP locally in 2010. Her department oversees people on probation for various crimes -- and many of them in trouble for abusing their intimate partners.
The top three questions that police officers ask concentrate on the likelihood that dangerous offenders will escalate violence. Was a weapon used or threatened? Do you think he might kill you? Has he made threats against you or your children?
Klobuchar, a former chief prosecutor in Hennepin County, said domestic disturbances are "fraught with emotion" and the LAP program helps bring a clear-sighted approach to defusing further violence. Victims who score high on the questions -- meaning they're at high risk -- could be taken to a shelter for immediate protection. Various criminal justice agencies, including courts, share the findings.
Police Chief Bill Sullivan of Oakdale told Klobuchar that of 51 LAP assessments made in his city, only one required further police intervention. In most domestic disturbances when nobody is arrested, he said, the situation settles down after police intervene.
"I think we have a far greater concern when there is demonstrable violence that has occurred and an arrest is made," he said in an interview Friday. "The suspect will ultimately be released from jail at some point and we can never accurately predict the suspect's reaction to being arrested after they return home. ... Any tool that we can use to try and help assess potential future violence is very important."
Oakdale and the Washington County Sheriff's Office were the first agencies to start LAP.
Karin McCarthy, a Washington County assistant attorney, said prosecutors can use LAP findings to ask judges for higher bail for abusers, or to successfully argue for tougher release conditions. And victims who have been placed under protection of the domestic violence agency Tubman have shown more willingness to help prosecutors, he said.
In Ramsey County, law enforcement agencies now are being trained for a similar lethality assessment program, said County Attorney John Choi. Adapted from the program "Blueprint for Safety" that Choi started in his previous job as St. Paul's city attorney, the county initiative aims to ensure victim safety and offender accountability.
Quicker intervention in domestic abuse cases means a higher likelihood that defendants can be held accountable because victims are less inclined to become intimidated, Choi said. The program also means more urgency directed at the most dangerous cases, he said.
Washington County District Judge Elizabeth Martin said the LAP program can't save all victims in Washington County from further violence. But the quick sharing of information in dangerous cases, she said, guides judges in their responses to the most troubling offenders.
"One of the things we know about these folks is that they violate, frequently, the conditions of their probation," said Tom Adkins, who heads Washington County's community corrections department. "This is one way for us to say, 'This is one we really need to pay attention to.'"
http://www.startribune.com/local/east/156874195.html
2nd Annual Genesis Women's Shelter - Strike Out Domestic Violence
I will be at 300 Dallas in Addison, Texas on on July 28th supporting Genesis Women's Shelter at their fabulous bowling event "Strike Out Domestic Violence."
If you want to participate please contact Jenn West at jwest@genesisshelter.org.
About Genesis Women's Shelter
Their mission is to end the epidemic of domestic violence against women and children by stopping individual victimization and reducing the devastating impact of family violence through safety, shelter and expert services to battered women and their children.
They are committed to preventing violence by raising the level of community awareness regarding the pervasiveness and effects of domestic violence.
Each year, the programs at Genesis continue to expand in response to the increased need for our services. Our outreach counselors see an average of 1,000 women and children each year, and our Shelter houses 650 women and children annually. The families who walk through our doors are escaping unspeakable violence, and our goal is to provide them with all the tools they need. From the moment a woman picks up the phone to call the hotline, to her arrival at the Shelter, to the ongoing counseling for her and her children, Genesis Women's Shelter is there to help her navigate the difficult road and achieve success she once only dreamed possible.
Rustie J
If you want to participate please contact Jenn West at jwest@genesisshelter.org.
About Genesis Women's Shelter
Their mission is to end the epidemic of domestic violence against women and children by stopping individual victimization and reducing the devastating impact of family violence through safety, shelter and expert services to battered women and their children.
They are committed to preventing violence by raising the level of community awareness regarding the pervasiveness and effects of domestic violence.
Each year, the programs at Genesis continue to expand in response to the increased need for our services. Our outreach counselors see an average of 1,000 women and children each year, and our Shelter houses 650 women and children annually. The families who walk through our doors are escaping unspeakable violence, and our goal is to provide them with all the tools they need. From the moment a woman picks up the phone to call the hotline, to her arrival at the Shelter, to the ongoing counseling for her and her children, Genesis Women's Shelter is there to help her navigate the difficult road and achieve success she once only dreamed possible.
Rustie J
CHICS Sixth Annual Fundraiser Supporting The Family Place
I will be at Gilley's Dallas on June 16th, supporting The Family Place at their Sixth Annual CHICS Fundraiser. It is a fabulous night of music and dancing, raffle, live and silent auctions.
CHICS is a fabulous Dallas-Ft. Worth group of about 25 outstanding women that's goal is to support The Family Place and to raise awareness on domestic violence. CHICS stands for Caring Hands Invoking Community Spirit.
To purchase tickets contact Karen DeGraffenreid 214-443-7714 kadegraffenreid@familyplace.org. Tickets are $60 in advance and $70 at the door.
About The Family Place:
The Family Place is the largest family violence service provider in the Dallas area reaching out to thousands of victims of family violence each year with award-winning programs that keep women and children safe. For 33 years, The Family Place’s mission to end the epidemic of family violence has remained constant. We believe that intervention, emergency shelter, and crisis counseling for all victims—women, children and men—will save lives and that transitional housing and case management will transform lives for the better.
Rustie J
CHICS is a fabulous Dallas-Ft. Worth group of about 25 outstanding women that's goal is to support The Family Place and to raise awareness on domestic violence. CHICS stands for Caring Hands Invoking Community Spirit.
To purchase tickets contact Karen DeGraffenreid 214-443-7714 kadegraffenreid@familyplace.org. Tickets are $60 in advance and $70 at the door.
About The Family Place:
The Family Place is the largest family violence service provider in the Dallas area reaching out to thousands of victims of family violence each year with award-winning programs that keep women and children safe. For 33 years, The Family Place’s mission to end the epidemic of family violence has remained constant. We believe that intervention, emergency shelter, and crisis counseling for all victims—women, children and men—will save lives and that transitional housing and case management will transform lives for the better.
Rustie J
SWWLS - June Get Together
I am excitied about June's Society of Women Who Love Shoes get together at Manuel's Creative Cuisine in Dallas, TX on June 13 at 6-9PM.
Manuel’s Creative Cuisine
(Across from Winston's Supper Club)
3102 Oak Lawn Avenue
Dallas, Texas
Please RSVP
$10.00 and a donation of New or Gently used Shoes for Women and Children
****Also Taking Toiletries and School Supplies for inner-city Children****
Proceeds go to benefit Families of Abuse & BAM (Beautiful Ambitious Me)
Complimentary Hors d’ oeuvres and cash bar by Manuel’s Creative Cuisine
Contests: Sexiest Shoe - Highest Heel -Most Unique Shoe - check back to see pictures of the winners :)
Men are welcome but wear a Tie and you could be a Judge
Manuel’s Creative Cuisine
(Across from Winston's Supper Club)
3102 Oak Lawn Avenue
Dallas, Texas
Please RSVP
$10.00 and a donation of New or Gently used Shoes for Women and Children
****Also Taking Toiletries and School Supplies for inner-city Children****
Proceeds go to benefit Families of Abuse & BAM (Beautiful Ambitious Me)
Complimentary Hors d’ oeuvres and cash bar by Manuel’s Creative Cuisine
Contests: Sexiest Shoe - Highest Heel -Most Unique Shoe - check back to see pictures of the winners :)
Men are welcome but wear a Tie and you could be a Judge
See you there!!
Rustie J
IT'S OFFICAL..I'm The Spokesperson for The Society of Women Who Love Shoes!!!
I am so excited to be the spokesperson for The Society of Women Who Love Shoes - "Healing Families of Abuse One Sole at a Time." Together we will be educating the public about domestic violence, advocating for the victims and survivors, and raising awareness on a topic that many don't want to talk about. I will be part of every event that I can because it is my goal to become a well known name in the fight against domestic violence. Remember "Don't Do It/Don't Take It," no one deserves to be abused no matter what.
Together we can and will make a difference!!!
Rustie J
One in every Four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime (National Institute of Justice and the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention).The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $5.8 billion each year, $4.1 billion of which is for direct medical and mental health services.( U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics).
The Power of Shoes : Society of Women Who LOVE Shoes is a non-profit organization whose focus includes collecting shoes and other items for victims of domestic violence. Through our networking and social events we raise awareness and promote change for these victims and survivors.
| The fabulous Dianne and Roger Samoff |
The Power of Shoes began as The Society of Women Who LOVE Shoes and was founded in 2005 by Dianne Samoff in Houston, TX. After suffering years of domestic violence during her first marriage, Ms. Samoff finally escaped. Trying to get a job after leaving, she was given a suit and a pair of red heels to wear to an interview. Both gave her a sense of pride and hope knowing she was moving forward into a new future. Ms. Samoff felt the need to give this same source of hope to other women of domestic violence. She currently has a chapter of Society of Women Who LOVE Shoes in Houston, Dallas and Miami with hopes to expand around the world.
"We all know that when a woman feels like a woman, there is POWER!"
-Dianne Samoff, Founder
Together we can and will make a difference!!!
Rustie J
Relay For Life - Irving
I had another fabulous time with Mrs. Fort Worth, Angela Pollard, at the Irving Relay For Life!! It is always an inspiration to hear the stores from the survivors and the new lease on life that they have.
You should know some of the general signs and symptoms of cancer. But remember, having any of these does not mean that you have cancer -- many other things cause these signs and symptoms, too. If you have any of these symptoms and they last for a long time or get worse, please see a doctor to find out what is going on.
Unexplained weight loss
Fever
Fever is very common with cancer, but it more often happens after cancer has spread from where it started. Almost all patients with cancer will have fever at some time, especially if the cancer or its treatment affects the immune system. This can make it harder for the body to fight infection. Less often, fever may be an early sign of cancer, such as blood cancers like leukemia or lymphoma.
Fatigue
Along with cancers of the skin, some other cancers can cause skin symptoms or signs that can be seen. These signs and symptoms include:
Learn what some of the most common signs and symptoms of cancer are...so read more!!
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| My partner in crime!! |
Unexplained weight loss
Most people with cancer will lose weight at some point. When you lose weight with no known reason, it's called an unexplained weight loss. An unexplained weight loss of 10 pounds or more may be the first sign of cancer. This happens most often with cancers of the pancreas, stomach, esophagus, or lung.
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| One of the many fabulous volunteers! |
Fever is very common with cancer, but it more often happens after cancer has spread from where it started. Almost all patients with cancer will have fever at some time, especially if the cancer or its treatment affects the immune system. This can make it harder for the body to fight infection. Less often, fever may be an early sign of cancer, such as blood cancers like leukemia or lymphoma.
Fatigue
Fatigue is extreme tiredness that does not get better with rest. It may be an important symptom as cancer grows. It may happen early, though, in cancers like leukemia. Some colon or stomach cancers can cause blood loss. This is another way cancer can cause fatigue.
Pain
Pain
Pain may be an early symptom with some cancers like bone cancers or testicular cancer. A headache that does not go away or get better with treatment may be a symptom of a brain tumor. Back pain can be a symptom of cancer of the colon, rectum, or ovary. Most often, pain due to cancer is a symptom of cancer that has already spread from where it started (metastasized).
Skin changesAlong with cancers of the skin, some other cancers can cause skin symptoms or signs that can be seen. These signs and symptoms include:
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- Darker looking skin (hyperpigmentation)
- Yellowish skin and eyes (jaundice)
- Reddened skin (erythema)
- Itching (pruritis)
- Excessive hair growth
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| Dancing away cancer :) |
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| Here is what we are looking at!! |
Rustie J
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Armed Forces Hockey Classic Supporting Honor Flight
It was an honor to be part of the Armed Forces Hockey Classic Supporting Honor Flight. I also got to spend time with one of my favorite pageant sisters Mrs. Texas International Rachel Hedstrom and her pageant crew (mom, "papa"razzi, grandma (and fellow jcpenney veteran) and grandpa (a fabulous veteran that fought for our freedom). Remember when you see a veteran thank them for what they have done for us and our freedom!
Rustie J
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| The trophey the Armed Forces want with the Top Fundraising Honor Flight veteran! |
It was an honor to be part of the Armed Forces Hockey Classic Supporting Honor Flight. I also got to spend time with one of my favorite pageant sisters Mrs. Texas International Rachel Hedstrom and her pageant crew (mom, "papa"razzi, grandma (and fellow jcpenney veteran) and grandpa (a fabulous veteran that fought for our freedom). Remember when you see a veteran thank them for what they have done for us and our freedom!
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| The FABULOUS Mrs. Texas!! |
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| Marines vs. Navy in the Championship Game. |
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Monday, May 28, 2012
Employers Have a Role in Ending Domestic Violence
A great article about employers needing to support victims of domestic violence so they can continue to live and not be punished for the hell they have already been though. We need this kind of action by all employers!
28 May 2012
A society free from domestic and family violence is possible, but it will take effort from the whole community to achieve.
First, we need to reject the myth that family violence is a private problem that only exists within the four walls of the home.
Employers, service providers and government bodies can all make it easier – or more difficult – for a woman to access support or leave a violent relationship. If they make it harder, they become part of the problem.
With the Federal Government currently reviewing and reforming Australia's national anti-discrimination laws, Australia has an opportunity to strengthen the law and prohibit discrimination against women who are victims of domestic violence.
As the UN's independent expert on violence against women reiterated during a recent visit to Australia, extending anti-discrimination laws would help eliminate the discrimination that compounds the harm incurred as a consequence of domestic violence. It would also acknowledge our shared responsibility to facilitate support in times of crises.
While such laws would not, of course, be a panacea to the scourge of violence against women, they would play an important role in reducing the toxic effects of violence on women, children, and our community as a whole. They would also assist in creating pathways out of violence through economic independence and access to accommodation.
Anti-discrimination laws are not aimed at preventing or addressing the violence itself. To do that we need comprehensive, adequately funded prevention programs. We need to ensure that we have services to respond to crises and improve the safety of victims. And we need to increase the accountability of perpetrators.
However, anti-discrimination law can be an important piece of the puzzle because it increases our capacity to recognise and stamp out the discrimination that surrounds and entrenches violence and compounds the difficulties faced by victims.
Family violence can have a significant impact in the workplace. It can result in absenteeism due to court appearances or doctor's appointments. Performance may be adversely affected due to sleep deprivation and stress. Violent partners or ex-partners may follow employees to the workplace and cause a disturbance, or harass them over the phone or email.
If a victim loses her job as a result of these impacts of violence, she may also lose the economic independence, social networks and self-confidence that could help her escape the violent relationship.
On the other hand, if an employer offers flexibility around, for example, personal leave or work schedules, this can be an enormous help to victims. Small things, like having another worker temporarily answer the victim's phone if she is being harassed, make a big difference.
Of course, an employer cannot respond appropriately if they don't know that the violence is taking place. But it is the fear of discriminatory treatment that often deters victims and survivors from disclosing their situations to employers in the first place.
Making such discrimination unlawful would provide a safety net to women who would like to seek help, but are concerned that they might be placing their jobs at risk if they do.
Domestic and family violence is also a key cause of homelessness for women and their children. Access to safe and secure housing is integral to escaping violent situations. So it is extremely harmful when victims are denied access to public or private housing simply because they are known to have an abusive partner.
There's also an economic case for eliminating discrimination against victims of domestic and family violence. By acting to support victims, employers can save on costs associated with absenteeism, lost productivity and staff turnover.
According to Access Economics, violence against women costs the Australian community $8.1 billion per annum. A substantial proportion of this is borne by employers in the form of decreased productivity, sick pay and staff turnover.
Family violence has reached crisis levels in Australia. Approximately 1.2 million Australian women have experienced violence at the hands of a current or former partner. Family violence is the leading contributor to death, disability and illness in women aged 15 to 44. We need all the tools we can get to combat this problem.
It is all of our responsibility to create an environment that assists, rather than impedes, victims and survivors of domestic and family violence. That goes for governments, employers, service providers and the community.
If we fail to do this and act as though domestic violence belongs behind closed doors, we create an environment where it is allowed to fester unimpeded.
The Government's anti-discrimination law reform agenda provides a perfect chance to ensure that we all pitch in to address one of the most widespread and significant human rights violations in Australia. This is an opportunity for all of us to contribute to a safer, fairer Australia.
http://www.abc.net.au/unleashed/4037452.html
28 May 2012
A society free from domestic and family violence is possible, but it will take effort from the whole community to achieve.
First, we need to reject the myth that family violence is a private problem that only exists within the four walls of the home.
Employers, service providers and government bodies can all make it easier – or more difficult – for a woman to access support or leave a violent relationship. If they make it harder, they become part of the problem.
With the Federal Government currently reviewing and reforming Australia's national anti-discrimination laws, Australia has an opportunity to strengthen the law and prohibit discrimination against women who are victims of domestic violence.
As the UN's independent expert on violence against women reiterated during a recent visit to Australia, extending anti-discrimination laws would help eliminate the discrimination that compounds the harm incurred as a consequence of domestic violence. It would also acknowledge our shared responsibility to facilitate support in times of crises.
While such laws would not, of course, be a panacea to the scourge of violence against women, they would play an important role in reducing the toxic effects of violence on women, children, and our community as a whole. They would also assist in creating pathways out of violence through economic independence and access to accommodation.
Anti-discrimination laws are not aimed at preventing or addressing the violence itself. To do that we need comprehensive, adequately funded prevention programs. We need to ensure that we have services to respond to crises and improve the safety of victims. And we need to increase the accountability of perpetrators.
However, anti-discrimination law can be an important piece of the puzzle because it increases our capacity to recognise and stamp out the discrimination that surrounds and entrenches violence and compounds the difficulties faced by victims.
Family violence can have a significant impact in the workplace. It can result in absenteeism due to court appearances or doctor's appointments. Performance may be adversely affected due to sleep deprivation and stress. Violent partners or ex-partners may follow employees to the workplace and cause a disturbance, or harass them over the phone or email.
If a victim loses her job as a result of these impacts of violence, she may also lose the economic independence, social networks and self-confidence that could help her escape the violent relationship.
On the other hand, if an employer offers flexibility around, for example, personal leave or work schedules, this can be an enormous help to victims. Small things, like having another worker temporarily answer the victim's phone if she is being harassed, make a big difference.
Of course, an employer cannot respond appropriately if they don't know that the violence is taking place. But it is the fear of discriminatory treatment that often deters victims and survivors from disclosing their situations to employers in the first place.
Making such discrimination unlawful would provide a safety net to women who would like to seek help, but are concerned that they might be placing their jobs at risk if they do.
Domestic and family violence is also a key cause of homelessness for women and their children. Access to safe and secure housing is integral to escaping violent situations. So it is extremely harmful when victims are denied access to public or private housing simply because they are known to have an abusive partner.
There's also an economic case for eliminating discrimination against victims of domestic and family violence. By acting to support victims, employers can save on costs associated with absenteeism, lost productivity and staff turnover.
According to Access Economics, violence against women costs the Australian community $8.1 billion per annum. A substantial proportion of this is borne by employers in the form of decreased productivity, sick pay and staff turnover.
Family violence has reached crisis levels in Australia. Approximately 1.2 million Australian women have experienced violence at the hands of a current or former partner. Family violence is the leading contributor to death, disability and illness in women aged 15 to 44. We need all the tools we can get to combat this problem.
It is all of our responsibility to create an environment that assists, rather than impedes, victims and survivors of domestic and family violence. That goes for governments, employers, service providers and the community.
If we fail to do this and act as though domestic violence belongs behind closed doors, we create an environment where it is allowed to fester unimpeded.
The Government's anti-discrimination law reform agenda provides a perfect chance to ensure that we all pitch in to address one of the most widespread and significant human rights violations in Australia. This is an opportunity for all of us to contribute to a safer, fairer Australia.
http://www.abc.net.au/unleashed/4037452.html
Remember Why We Have Our Freedom
This Memorial Day, I'd like to take a moment to remember all those who have given their lives for our great country.Thank you to those who have sacrificed their lives to protect our freedom. I am forever grateful.Thank You past, present and future service members! Hug a veteran today while you are celebrating and enjoying your freedom!
“Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same, or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children's children what it was once like in the United States where men were free.”
― Ronald Reagan
We might have lost you, but you will never be forgotten!
Rustie J
We might have lost you, but you will never be forgotten!
“Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same, or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children's children what it was once like in the United States where men were free.”
― Ronald Reagan
Rustie J
Sunday, May 27, 2012
NYTEX Armed Forces Hockey Classic Benefiting Honor Flight
I am very excited to be part of another fabulous event supporting Honor Flight.
Veterans of the U.S. Armed Force are playing with heart for the ones who have come before them. The NYTEX Armed Forces Hockey Classic gathers hockey-playing veterans together on Memorial Day to honor those who have served our nation while also raising funds for a charity that supports veterans. The tournament includes four participating teams: Team Air Force, Army, Marine Corps and Navy. Each team is comprised of veterans who traveled from all over Texas and Louisiana to play.
The Championship game is at 7:15pm where more then 30 WWII veterans will be attending the game to cheer on the teams on the ice. This is a free event, but donations are much appreciated, and it's full of family-friendly fun.
So come support our Armed Forces. Mrs. Texas International, Miss Greater Dallas, Mrs. Forth Worth and Mrs. Tarrant County will also be on hand to support our veterans and Honor Flight!!
Rustie J
Veterans of the U.S. Armed Force are playing with heart for the ones who have come before them. The NYTEX Armed Forces Hockey Classic gathers hockey-playing veterans together on Memorial Day to honor those who have served our nation while also raising funds for a charity that supports veterans. The tournament includes four participating teams: Team Air Force, Army, Marine Corps and Navy. Each team is comprised of veterans who traveled from all over Texas and Louisiana to play.
The Championship game is at 7:15pm where more then 30 WWII veterans will be attending the game to cheer on the teams on the ice. This is a free event, but donations are much appreciated, and it's full of family-friendly fun.
So come support our Armed Forces. Mrs. Texas International, Miss Greater Dallas, Mrs. Forth Worth and Mrs. Tarrant County will also be on hand to support our veterans and Honor Flight!!
Rustie J
Women Who Made Domestic Violence Call Ends up in Immigration Custody
This is exactly why we need to make sure the re-authorization of the Violence Against Women's Act includes rights and protection for immigrants. It is hard enough to make the call but even harder if you have to battle over the thought that you could also get deported. Everyone should be able to make the call for help without fear.
Published May 24, 2012
Fox News Latino
Denver, Colorado – A Colorado woman who called police for help in an alleged domestic violence incident said she ended up being turned over to immigration agents and held in their custody for nearly two weeks.
Virginia Urtusuastegui's case is one of three that the Colorado American Civil Liberties Union said it has documented in the Western Slope county in which suspected undocumented immigrants who were alleged victims of domestic violence were arrested and inadvertently reported to U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after calling police for help.
ACLU attorney Rebecca Wallace said Wednesday the cases expose problems with a 2006 state law that requires authorities to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE at the time they're booked in jail.
The law includes a provision to exclude domestic violence cases because victims inadvertently get arrested when investigators are unable to sort out the perpetrator from the victim. But the ACLU argues not waiting until suspects are convicted in such cases to report them to ICE could subject an alleged victim to deportation proceedings.
The organization says that's exactly what happened in Urtusuastegui's case, and it has sent a letter to Garfield County Sheriff Lou Vallario asking him to change his agency's policy.
Vallario said the ACLU's allegations are part of an effort to undermine his department's relationship with ICE and that he "will not be bullied or intimidated into complying with what the ACLU thinks is more appropriate for the country."
He said he's not reporting victims to ICE, he's following the law, and he has no plans to change his policy of reporting suspected undocumented immigrants at the time they're booked into jail. He also said he's sympathetic to crime victims, regardless of their immigration status.
"If you are a victim of a crime, you should report it and be provided all of the efforts and services available to victims of any crimes," Vallario said in a statement. "I fully understand the dynamics of (domestic violence) and the associated difficulties with victims reporting their abuse. This is not a singular issue for the illegal immigrant population but an issue of all victims of domestic violence."
The ACLU and immigrant rights advocates are concerned that such cases discourage undocumented immigrants from reporting crimes.
In an interview with The Associated Press, Urtusuastegui, 30, a housekeeper from Glenwood Springs, said in Spanish that she called police June 19 after enduring a beating that left her with a bump on her head and bruises on her arms and on her feet.
She said she felt relief when police arrived but then panicked. She didn't want her husband taken to jail, so she refused to cooperate. She was arrested and booked into the Garfield County jail on a charge of false reporting.
"It had gotten serious and I was afraid that something else would happen to me, and to me it seemed easy to dial 911," she said of her initial phone call.
She said an ICE agent showed up within three hours of being booked into jail.
Washington-based ICE spokeswoman Nicole Navas declined to comment on Urtusuastegui's case, citing privacy laws.
"It was a terrible shock. You don't know what to think, what to say," Urtusuastegui said of her arrest. "You think you're calling police so they can help you, not so they can do what they did to me."
Local prosecutors dropped the case against Urtusuastegui four days after her arrest. But because ICE had been notified, Urtusuastegui was placed on an immigration hold and was not immediately eligible for bail, she said. Her husband was not charged, she said.
She said she was transported to Park County jail, some 75 miles away, where word came 13 days after her arrest that she was being released.
An application for legal status filed by her father in 1996, when she was teenager, had come through and she was granted a work visa, said Wallace, the ACLU attorney, and Urtusuastegui. The visa allows Urtusuastegui to work and live in the U.S. while she awaits approval of her permanent resident application. Urtusuastegui is originally from Mexico.
"I know that what I went through is nothing," Urtusuastegui said. "I know of cases where other women have been through worse."
Wallace said the other two documented cases involve women who did not wish to be identified because their immigration cases are pending.
She would like to see Garfield County adopt a policy similar to some other Colorado jurisdictions, like nearby Mesa County, where deputies wait until convictions in domestic violence cases to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE.
"We want effective law enforcement," Wallace said.
This is based on a story by The Associated Press.
Read more: http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/politics/2012/05/24/colorado-undocumented-woman-turned-over-to-immigration-after-making-domestic/#ixzz1w7TfdCrq
Virginia Urtusuastegui's case is one of three that the Colorado American Civil Liberties Union said it has documented in the Western Slope county in which suspected undocumented immigrants who were alleged victims of domestic violence were arrested and inadvertently reported to U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after calling police for help.
ACLU attorney Rebecca Wallace said Wednesday the cases expose problems with a 2006 state law that requires authorities to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE at the time they're booked in jail.
The law includes a provision to exclude domestic violence cases because victims inadvertently get arrested when investigators are unable to sort out the perpetrator from the victim. But the ACLU argues not waiting until suspects are convicted in such cases to report them to ICE could subject an alleged victim to deportation proceedings.
The organization says that's exactly what happened in Urtusuastegui's case, and it has sent a letter to Garfield County Sheriff Lou Vallario asking him to change his agency's policy.
Vallario said the ACLU's allegations are part of an effort to undermine his department's relationship with ICE and that he "will not be bullied or intimidated into complying with what the ACLU thinks is more appropriate for the country."
He said he's not reporting victims to ICE, he's following the law, and he has no plans to change his policy of reporting suspected undocumented immigrants at the time they're booked into jail. He also said he's sympathetic to crime victims, regardless of their immigration status.
"If you are a victim of a crime, you should report it and be provided all of the efforts and services available to victims of any crimes," Vallario said in a statement. "I fully understand the dynamics of (domestic violence) and the associated difficulties with victims reporting their abuse. This is not a singular issue for the illegal immigrant population but an issue of all victims of domestic violence."
The ACLU and immigrant rights advocates are concerned that such cases discourage undocumented immigrants from reporting crimes.
In an interview with The Associated Press, Urtusuastegui, 30, a housekeeper from Glenwood Springs, said in Spanish that she called police June 19 after enduring a beating that left her with a bump on her head and bruises on her arms and on her feet.
She said she felt relief when police arrived but then panicked. She didn't want her husband taken to jail, so she refused to cooperate. She was arrested and booked into the Garfield County jail on a charge of false reporting.
"It had gotten serious and I was afraid that something else would happen to me, and to me it seemed easy to dial 911," she said of her initial phone call.
She said an ICE agent showed up within three hours of being booked into jail.
Washington-based ICE spokeswoman Nicole Navas declined to comment on Urtusuastegui's case, citing privacy laws.
"It was a terrible shock. You don't know what to think, what to say," Urtusuastegui said of her arrest. "You think you're calling police so they can help you, not so they can do what they did to me."
Local prosecutors dropped the case against Urtusuastegui four days after her arrest. But because ICE had been notified, Urtusuastegui was placed on an immigration hold and was not immediately eligible for bail, she said. Her husband was not charged, she said.
She said she was transported to Park County jail, some 75 miles away, where word came 13 days after her arrest that she was being released.
An application for legal status filed by her father in 1996, when she was teenager, had come through and she was granted a work visa, said Wallace, the ACLU attorney, and Urtusuastegui. The visa allows Urtusuastegui to work and live in the U.S. while she awaits approval of her permanent resident application. Urtusuastegui is originally from Mexico.
"I know that what I went through is nothing," Urtusuastegui said. "I know of cases where other women have been through worse."
Wallace said the other two documented cases involve women who did not wish to be identified because their immigration cases are pending.
She would like to see Garfield County adopt a policy similar to some other Colorado jurisdictions, like nearby Mesa County, where deputies wait until convictions in domestic violence cases to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE.
"We want effective law enforcement," Wallace said.
This is based on a story by The Associated Press.
Read more: http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/politics/2012/05/24/colorado-undocumented-woman-turned-over-to-immigration-after-making-domestic/#ixzz1w7TfdCrq
Stearns County Domestic Violence Court entering fourth year, seeing success
What a great article about Domestic Violence Court working and putting the abusers in their place.
Julie Miessen just wanted the police to put a scare into the man who had abused her, followed her from northern Minnesota when she left him and threatened to kill her and their child.
Then she got to court and realized that Stearns County prosecutors had more in mind than a wake-up call for her ex-boyfriend. And she was mad about it and let everyone know.
She had effectively sent him to jail by calling the police when he violated an order for protection. If she didn’t at least appear to be doing all she could to get him out of jail, she feared what would happen when he was released.So she went to Anna Marie’s Alliance to fulfill the requirements of Stearns County’s Domestic Violence Court, which was where her ex-boyfriend’s case ended up. She was at Anna Marie’s to go through the motions, she thought — to watch a video and set up a safety plan that would allow her to drop the no-contact order.
“Of course, I didn’t have a very good attitude,” Miessen said.
That changed quickly, though.
“We watched a video about how domestic abuse affects children. Wow. I was like, ‘No way.’ There’s no way I’m doing this to my kid. My kid doesn’t deserve that,” she said.
Another woman was cracking jokes about the video and the safety plan requirement. Miessen confronted her, telling the woman that the video had changed her and her attitude about what to do about the abuse.
“I’m not going to let my kids go through that,” she recalls saying that day. “That was my turnaround point. And I think I’ve apologized to everybody in Stearns County for how I’ve treated them.”
That turnaround is one of the dramatic signs of success for the Stearns County Domestic Violence Court. It has survived on $1 million worth of grants since it began three years ago and soon will become a permanent part of the Stearns County criminal justice system budget.
It’s stories like Miessen’s that show how the DVC is saving money and lives by putting the worst of the worst domestic violence offenders under a microscope of strict supervision and swift sanctions for violations.
“What we are doing here is homicide prevention,” Stearns County Attorney Janelle Kendall said. “We’ve gone from one group of guys committing three assaults a year to a total of five assaults out of 136 guys in three years.”
The partnership is vital to the court, which handled 129 offenders through the end of 2011. By the end of 2011, 120 of them had pleaded guilty to their crimes, and 52 had gone to prison. Only nine had graduated to traditional probation supervision.
The focus isn’t just on the offender. St. Cloud Area Legal Services provided services to 115 of the victims of those offenders. Included among those services is child protection and establishing and enforcing child support, housing, medical assistance and help with transportation and day care.
“What is important to the victim here is oftentimes these are the areas of control that the offender has over the victim,” said Mark Sizer, county human services administrator. “She doesn’t have a place to live. She doesn’t have a vehicle, transportation, child care. And we can assist with those needs.”
When Miessen’s ex-boyfriend walked into the downtown St. Cloud Perkins, the DVC surveillance agent and police were waiting for him. He was arrested on his birthday, less than an hour after being released from jail where he was in custody from a previous no-contact order violation.
By then, Miessen was a believer in domestic violence court. Initially she just wanted to please the man who had abused her so his harm wouldn’t spread to her daughter and to her extended family.
“The fear of knowing that they will hurt you and your family is enough to keep you with somebody,” she said. “He could hurt me. I didn’t want him hurting my family. When you feel so low and have such low self-esteem, it’s hard to leave. It’s what you know. That’s the life I led for three years.”
http://www.sctimes.com/article/20120527/NEWS01/305270029/Stearns-County-Domestic-Violence-Court-entering-fourth-year-seeing-success?odyssey=nav%7Chead&nclick_check=1
Julie Miessen just wanted the police to put a scare into the man who had abused her, followed her from northern Minnesota when she left him and threatened to kill her and their child.
Then she got to court and realized that Stearns County prosecutors had more in mind than a wake-up call for her ex-boyfriend. And she was mad about it and let everyone know.
She had effectively sent him to jail by calling the police when he violated an order for protection. If she didn’t at least appear to be doing all she could to get him out of jail, she feared what would happen when he was released.So she went to Anna Marie’s Alliance to fulfill the requirements of Stearns County’s Domestic Violence Court, which was where her ex-boyfriend’s case ended up. She was at Anna Marie’s to go through the motions, she thought — to watch a video and set up a safety plan that would allow her to drop the no-contact order.
“Of course, I didn’t have a very good attitude,” Miessen said.
That changed quickly, though.
“We watched a video about how domestic abuse affects children. Wow. I was like, ‘No way.’ There’s no way I’m doing this to my kid. My kid doesn’t deserve that,” she said.
Another woman was cracking jokes about the video and the safety plan requirement. Miessen confronted her, telling the woman that the video had changed her and her attitude about what to do about the abuse.
“I’m not going to let my kids go through that,” she recalls saying that day. “That was my turnaround point. And I think I’ve apologized to everybody in Stearns County for how I’ve treated them.”
That turnaround is one of the dramatic signs of success for the Stearns County Domestic Violence Court. It has survived on $1 million worth of grants since it began three years ago and soon will become a permanent part of the Stearns County criminal justice system budget.
It’s stories like Miessen’s that show how the DVC is saving money and lives by putting the worst of the worst domestic violence offenders under a microscope of strict supervision and swift sanctions for violations.
“What we are doing here is homicide prevention,” Stearns County Attorney Janelle Kendall said. “We’ve gone from one group of guys committing three assaults a year to a total of five assaults out of 136 guys in three years.”
The success of the program was highlighted again earlier this month when Sen. Amy Klobuchar visited St. Cloud to hear testimonials about the DVC’s effectiveness. Klobuchar was working on congressional renewal of the Violence Against Women Act that helps fund such programs.
“It’s a really great story of getting things started and then institutionalizing it in a way where you learn that it saves money and saves lives,” Klobuchar said.
The cases were cycling through the system, but the courts weren’t slowing them down or stopping the violence. Children witnessing the abuse were more likely to be the next generation of abusers.
“We decided to take on the worst of the worst,” Kendall said.
That meant closer monitoring of the offenders accepted into DVC. A surveillance agent and probation agent in a three-month period make as many as 4,000 contacts with about 40 offenders. Each offender is required to call in daily to report where they are.
There are random visits to the offender; random drug and alcohol tests; and help with mental health issues, counseling and medical assistance, among other things. Police now have access to offender and victim records through squad-car computers so they know exactly what restrictions have been placed on each offender and who their victims are.
There is voice recognition software in the jail and monitoring of jail phone calls so no-contact orders can be enforced if an offender calls a victim. GPS units track offenders, and expanded use of arrest-and-detain orders give law enforcement more tools to protect victims.
“It’s a really great story of getting things started and then institutionalizing it in a way where you learn that it saves money and saves lives,” Klobuchar said.
Close monitoring
When the court started in May 2009, the previous seven homicides in Stearns County were related to domestic violence. Domestic violence accounted for 40 percent of court appearances in which a defendant stayed in jail until they made their first court appearance, Kendall said.The cases were cycling through the system, but the courts weren’t slowing them down or stopping the violence. Children witnessing the abuse were more likely to be the next generation of abusers.
“We decided to take on the worst of the worst,” Kendall said.
That meant closer monitoring of the offenders accepted into DVC. A surveillance agent and probation agent in a three-month period make as many as 4,000 contacts with about 40 offenders. Each offender is required to call in daily to report where they are.
There are random visits to the offender; random drug and alcohol tests; and help with mental health issues, counseling and medical assistance, among other things. Police now have access to offender and victim records through squad-car computers so they know exactly what restrictions have been placed on each offender and who their victims are.
There is voice recognition software in the jail and monitoring of jail phone calls so no-contact orders can be enforced if an offender calls a victim. GPS units track offenders, and expanded use of arrest-and-detain orders give law enforcement more tools to protect victims.
“This is a different way of doing business,” said Lt. Jim Mortenson of the St. Cloud Police Department.
He’s part of the Stearns County Domestic Violence Partnership, a collaboration of law enforcement, judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, county human services, legal aid and domestic violence prevention advocates.The partnership is vital to the court, which handled 129 offenders through the end of 2011. By the end of 2011, 120 of them had pleaded guilty to their crimes, and 52 had gone to prison. Only nine had graduated to traditional probation supervision.
The focus isn’t just on the offender. St. Cloud Area Legal Services provided services to 115 of the victims of those offenders. Included among those services is child protection and establishing and enforcing child support, housing, medical assistance and help with transportation and day care.
“What is important to the victim here is oftentimes these are the areas of control that the offender has over the victim,” said Mark Sizer, county human services administrator. “She doesn’t have a place to live. She doesn’t have a vehicle, transportation, child care. And we can assist with those needs.”
'On my own'
One of the cases Sizer highlighted during Klobuchar’s visit to St. Cloud was Miessen’s. He told the senator of the day Miessen’s ex-boyfriend got out of jail and immediately violated a no-contact order by calling a third party with a request to set up a meeting between her and him.When Miessen’s ex-boyfriend walked into the downtown St. Cloud Perkins, the DVC surveillance agent and police were waiting for him. He was arrested on his birthday, less than an hour after being released from jail where he was in custody from a previous no-contact order violation.
By then, Miessen was a believer in domestic violence court. Initially she just wanted to please the man who had abused her so his harm wouldn’t spread to her daughter and to her extended family.
“The fear of knowing that they will hurt you and your family is enough to keep you with somebody,” she said. “He could hurt me. I didn’t want him hurting my family. When you feel so low and have such low self-esteem, it’s hard to leave. It’s what you know. That’s the life I led for three years.”
She had cursed the domestic violence court staff, refused to cooperate with its policies and held onto the hope that her abuser’s “I’m sorrys” would one day lead to a change in him.
But the no-contact order violations continued, as did the threats. He enrolled in classes at the same college where Miessen enrolled, sometimes taking the same classes. He confronted her while she was studying in the commons area, in the parking lot and over the phone.
If the video at Anna Marie’s was her turning point, the followup support was what kept her on her new path.
She spoke often to a victim advocate and would get calls — often on weekends — from surveillance agent Bill Nelson, just checking in to see how she was doing.
There were times when he dropped whatever he was doing — and at odd hours — to come to her house when she needed help.
“They made me realize I can do it on my own,” Miessen said. “And to this day he still wants me dead. But I’m not letting that control my life. I want to help people that are in this situation and let them know there are resources and you can get out and you can do it.”
That turnaround was significant for Kendall, who said Miessen was one of the first victims who initially was combative and who later embraced the domestic violence court approach. She hopes more do the same.
Half of the offenders in the DVC make it and half don’t, she said. There are services there to help the offenders change their behavior and stay out of custody. And there are swift consequences, including significant prison terms, for those who refuse to change.
“We put the keys to the jail or the prison in his hands. If he’s not going to make it, then let’s get there. And we’re getting that done twice as fast,” Kendall said. “So you’re figuring out which are which a lot more quickly by giving him opportunities. And sometimes they make it, and when they don’t, let’s not mess around.”
“What we are doing here is homicide prevention,” Stearns County Attorney Janelle Kendall said. “We’ve gone from one group of guys committing three assaults a year to a total of five assaults out of 136 guys in three years.”
The success of the program was highlighted again earlier this month when Sen. Amy Klobuchar visited St. Cloud to hear testimonials about the DVC’s effectiveness. Klobuchar was working on congressional renewal of the Violence Against Women Act that helps fund such programs.
“It’s a really great story of getting things started and then institutionalizing it in a way where you learn that it saves money and saves lives,” Klobuchar said.
Close monitoring
When the court started in May 2009, the previous seven homicides in Stearns County were related to domestic violence. Domestic violence accounted for 40 percent of court appearances in which a defendant stayed in jail until they made their first court appearance, Kendall said.
The cases were cycling through the system, but the courts weren’t slowing them down or stopping the violence. Children witnessing the abuse were more likely to be the next generation of abusers.
“We decided to take on the worst of the worst,” Kendall said.
That meant closer monitoring of the offenders accepted into DVC. A surveillance agent and probation agent in a three-month period make as many as 4,000 contacts with about 40 offenders. Each offender is required to call in daily to report where they are.
There are random visits to the offender; random drug and alcohol tests; and help with mental health issues, counseling and medical assistance, among other things. Police now have access to offender and victim records through squad-car computers so they know exactly what restrictions have been placed on each offender and who their victims are.
There is voice recognition software in the jail and monitoring of jail phone calls so no-contact orders can be enforced if an offender calls a victim. GPS units track offenders, and expanded use of arrest-and-detain orders give law enforcement more tools to protect victims.
“This is a different way of doing business,” said Lt. Jim Mortenson of the St. Cloud Police Department.
He’s part of the Stearns County Domestic Violence Partnership, a collaboration of law enforcement, judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, county human services, legal aid and domestic violence prevention advocates.
The partnership is vital to the court, which handled 129 offenders through the end of 2011. By the end of 2011, 120 of them had pleaded guilty to their crimes, and 52 had gone to prison. Only nine had graduated to traditional probation supervision.
The focus isn’t just on the offender. St. Cloud Area Legal Services provided services to 115 of the victims of those offenders. Included among those services is child protection and establishing and enforcing child support, housing, medical assistance and help with transportation and day care.
“What is important to the victim here is oftentimes these are the areas of control that the offender has over the victim,” said Mark Sizer, county human services administrator. “She doesn’t have a place to live. She doesn’t have a vehicle, transportation, child care. And we can assist with those needs.”
'On my own'
One of the cases Sizer highlighted during Klobuchar’s visit to St. Cloud was Miessen’s. He told the senator of the day Miessen’s ex-boyfriend got out of jail and immediately violated a no-contact order by calling a third party with a request to set up a meeting between her and him.
When Miessen’s ex-boyfriend walked into the downtown St. Cloud Perkins, the DVC surveillance agent and police were waiting for him. He was arrested on his birthday, less than an hour after being released from jail where he was in custody from a previous no-contact order violation.
By then, Miessen was a believer in domestic violence court. Initially she just wanted to please the man who had abused her so his harm wouldn’t spread to her daughter and to her extended family.
“The fear of knowing that they will hurt you and your family is enough to keep you with somebody,” she said. “He could hurt me. I didn’t want him hurting my family. When you feel so low and have such low self-esteem, it’s hard to leave. It’s what you know. That’s the life I led for three years.”
She had cursed the domestic violence court staff, refused to cooperate with its policies and held onto the hope that her abuser’s “I’m sorrys” would one day lead to a change in him.
But the no-contact order violations continued, as did the threats. He enrolled in classes at the same college where Miessen enrolled, sometimes taking the same classes. He confronted her while she was studying in the commons area, in the parking lot and over the phone.
If the video at Anna Marie’s was her turning point, the followup support was what kept her on her new path.
She spoke often to a victim advocate and would get calls — often on weekends — from surveillance agent Bill Nelson, just checking in to see how she was doing.
There were times when he dropped whatever he was doing — and at odd hours — to come to her house when she needed help.
“They made me realize I can do it on my own,” Miessen said. “And to this day he still wants me dead. But I’m not letting that control my life. I want to help people that are in this situation and let them know there are resources and you can get out and you can do it.”
That turnaround was significant for Kendall, who said Miessen was one of the first victims who initially was combative and who later embraced the domestic violence court approach. She hopes more do the same.
Half of the offenders in the DVC make it and half don’t, she said. There are services there to help the offenders change their behavior and stay out of custody. And there are swift consequences, including significant prison terms, for those who refuse to change.
“We put the keys to the jail or the prison in his hands. If he’s not going to make it, then let’s get there. And we’re getting that done twice as fast,” Kendall said. “So you’re figuring out which are which a lot more quickly by giving him opportunities. And sometimes they make it, and when they don’t, let’s not mess around.”
http://www.sctimes.com/article/20120527/NEWS01/305270029/Stearns-County-Domestic-Violence-Court-entering-fourth-year-seeing-success?odyssey=nav%7Chead&nclick_check=1
BIB Pre Pageant Workshop
I had a blast working with the fabulous contestants during the Building Inner Beauty Pre Pageant Workshop on Saturday. All of the contestant are bright, driven, and overall fabulous young girls that will accomplish many great things in life. I can't wait for next weeks pre pageant workshop and then pageant day.
Dream...Believe...Achieve and BE FABULOUS!!!
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
New Doors Are Opening...
This week has been a fabulous week so far for new partnerships. I can't talk about my up coming partnership just yet. But what I can tell you is that I am very excited for this a grand opportunity. I will be part of the awareness and education of domestic violence in Dallas-Ft. Forth and beyond. Networking is a powerful tool and it is because of the International pageant system that new doors are opening. Keep checking back for information on my new partnership.
Until then....Be FABULOUS!!
Rustie J
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