Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Armed Forces Hockey Classic Supporting Honor Flight


The trophey the Armed Forces want with the
Top Fundraising Honor Flight veteran!


It was an honor to be part of the Armed Forces Hockey Classic Supporting Honor Flight. I also got to spend time with one of my favorite pageant sisters Mrs. Texas International Rachel Hedstrom and her pageant crew (mom, "papa"razzi, grandma (and fellow jcpenney veteran) and grandpa (a fabulous veteran that fought for our freedom). Remember when you see a veteran thank them for what they have done for us and our freedom!



The FABULOUS Mrs. Texas!!

Marines vs. Navy in the Championship Game.


Rustie J

Monday, May 28, 2012

Employers Have a Role in Ending Domestic Violence

A great article about employers needing to support victims of domestic violence so they can continue to live and not be punished for the hell they have already been though. We need this kind of action by all employers!

28 May 2012
A society free from domestic and family violence is possible, but it will take effort from the whole community to achieve.
First, we need to reject the myth that family violence is a private problem that only exists within the four walls of the home.
Employers, service providers and government bodies can all make it easier – or more difficult – for a woman to access support or leave a violent relationship. If they make it harder, they become part of the problem.
With the Federal Government currently reviewing and reforming Australia's national anti-discrimination laws, Australia has an opportunity to strengthen the law and prohibit discrimination against women who are victims of domestic violence.
As the UN's independent expert on violence against women reiterated during a recent visit to Australia, extending anti-discrimination laws would help eliminate the discrimination that compounds the harm incurred as a consequence of domestic violence. It would also acknowledge our shared responsibility to facilitate support in times of crises.
While such laws would not, of course, be a panacea to the scourge of violence against women, they would play an important role in reducing the toxic effects of violence on women, children, and our community as a whole. They would also assist in creating pathways out of violence through economic independence and access to accommodation.
Anti-discrimination laws are not aimed at preventing or addressing the violence itself. To do that we need comprehensive, adequately funded prevention programs. We need to ensure that we have services to respond to crises and improve the safety of victims. And we need to increase the accountability of perpetrators.
However, anti-discrimination law can be an important piece of the puzzle because it increases our capacity to recognise and stamp out the discrimination that surrounds and entrenches violence and compounds the difficulties faced by victims.
Family violence can have a significant impact in the workplace. It can result in absenteeism due to court appearances or doctor's appointments. Performance may be adversely affected due to sleep deprivation and stress. Violent partners or ex-partners may follow employees to the workplace and cause a disturbance, or harass them over the phone or email.
If a victim loses her job as a result of these impacts of violence, she may also lose the economic independence, social networks and self-confidence that could help her escape the violent relationship.
On the other hand, if an employer offers flexibility around, for example, personal leave or work schedules, this can be an enormous help to victims. Small things, like having another worker temporarily answer the victim's phone if she is being harassed, make a big difference.
Of course, an employer cannot respond appropriately if they don't know that the violence is taking place. But it is the fear of discriminatory treatment that often deters victims and survivors from disclosing their situations to employers in the first place.
Making such discrimination unlawful would provide a safety net to women who would like to seek help, but are concerned that they might be placing their jobs at risk if they do.
Domestic and family violence is also a key cause of homelessness for women and their children. Access to safe and secure housing is integral to escaping violent situations. So it is extremely harmful when victims are denied access to public or private housing simply because they are known to have an abusive partner.
There's also an economic case for eliminating discrimination against victims of domestic and family violence. By acting to support victims, employers can save on costs associated with absenteeism, lost productivity and staff turnover.
According to Access Economics, violence against women costs the Australian community $8.1 billion per annum. A substantial proportion of this is borne by employers in the form of decreased productivity, sick pay and staff turnover.
Family violence has reached crisis levels in Australia. Approximately 1.2 million Australian women have experienced violence at the hands of a current or former partner. Family violence is the leading contributor to death, disability and illness in women aged 15 to 44. We need all the tools we can get to combat this problem.
It is all of our responsibility to create an environment that assists, rather than impedes, victims and survivors of domestic and family violence. That goes for governments, employers, service providers and the community.
If we fail to do this and act as though domestic violence belongs behind closed doors, we create an environment where it is allowed to fester unimpeded.
The Government's anti-discrimination law reform agenda provides a perfect chance to ensure that we all pitch in to address one of the most widespread and significant human rights violations in Australia. This is an opportunity for all of us to contribute to a safer, fairer Australia.

http://www.abc.net.au/unleashed/4037452.html

Remember Why We Have Our Freedom

This Memorial Day, I'd like to take a moment to remember all those who have given their lives for our great country.Thank you to those who have sacrificed their lives to protect our freedom. I am forever grateful.Thank You past, present and future service members! Hug a veteran today while you are celebrating and enjoying your freedom!
“Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same, or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children's children what it was once like in the United States where men were free.”
― Ronald Reagan
 We might have lost you, but you will never be forgotten!

Rustie J

Sunday, May 27, 2012

NYTEX Armed Forces Hockey Classic Benefiting Honor Flight

I am very excited to be part of another fabulous event supporting Honor Flight.


Veterans of the U.S. Armed Force are playing with heart for the ones who have come before them. The NYTEX Armed Forces Hockey Classic gathers hockey-playing veterans together on Memorial Day to honor those who have served our nation while also raising funds for a charity that supports veterans. The tournament includes four participating teams: Team Air Force, Army, Marine Corps and Navy. Each team is comprised of veterans who traveled from all over Texas and Louisiana to play.

The Championship game is at 7:15pm where more then 30 WWII veterans will be attending the game to cheer on the teams on the ice. This is a free event, but donations are much appreciated, and it's full of family-friendly fun.

So come support our Armed Forces. Mrs. Texas International, Miss Greater Dallas, Mrs. Forth Worth and Mrs. Tarrant County will also be on hand to support our veterans and Honor Flight!!

Rustie J

Women Who Made Domestic Violence Call Ends up in Immigration Custody

This is exactly why we need to make sure the re-authorization of the Violence Against Women's Act includes rights and protection for immigrants. It is hard enough to make the call but even harder if you have to battle over the thought that you could also get deported. Everyone should be able to make the call for help without fear.

Published May 24, 2012
Fox News Latino
A Colorado woman who called police for help in an alleged domestic violence incident said she ended up being turned over to immigration agents and held in their custody for nearly two weeks.
Virginia Urtusuastegui's case is one of three that the Colorado American Civil Liberties Union said it has documented in the Western Slope county in which suspected undocumented immigrants who were alleged victims of domestic violence were arrested and inadvertently reported to U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after calling police for help.
ACLU attorney Rebecca Wallace said Wednesday the cases expose problems with a 2006 state law that requires authorities to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE at the time they're booked in jail.
The law includes a provision to exclude domestic violence cases because victims inadvertently get arrested when investigators are unable to sort out the perpetrator from the victim. But the ACLU argues not waiting until suspects are convicted in such cases to report them to ICE could subject an alleged victim to deportation proceedings.
The organization says that's exactly what happened in Urtusuastegui's case, and it has sent a letter to Garfield County Sheriff Lou Vallario asking him to change his agency's policy.
Vallario said the ACLU's allegations are part of an effort to undermine his department's relationship with ICE and that he "will not be bullied or intimidated into complying with what the ACLU thinks is more appropriate for the country."
He said he's not reporting victims to ICE, he's following the law, and he has no plans to change his policy of reporting suspected undocumented immigrants at the time they're booked into jail. He also said he's sympathetic to crime victims, regardless of their immigration status.
"If you are a victim of a crime, you should report it and be provided all of the efforts and services available to victims of any crimes," Vallario said in a statement. "I fully understand the dynamics of (domestic violence) and the associated difficulties with victims reporting their abuse. This is not a singular issue for the illegal immigrant population but an issue of all victims of domestic violence."
The ACLU and immigrant rights advocates are concerned that such cases discourage undocumented immigrants from reporting crimes.
In an interview with The Associated Press, Urtusuastegui, 30, a housekeeper from Glenwood Springs, said in Spanish that she called police June 19 after enduring a beating that left her with a bump on her head and bruises on her arms and on her feet.
She said she felt relief when police arrived but then panicked. She didn't want her husband taken to jail, so she refused to cooperate. She was arrested and booked into the Garfield County jail on a charge of false reporting.
"It had gotten serious and I was afraid that something else would happen to me, and to me it seemed easy to dial 911," she said of her initial phone call.
She said an ICE agent showed up within three hours of being booked into jail.
Washington-based ICE spokeswoman Nicole Navas declined to comment on Urtusuastegui's case, citing privacy laws.
"It was a terrible shock. You don't know what to think, what to say," Urtusuastegui said of her arrest. "You think you're calling police so they can help you, not so they can do what they did to me."
Local prosecutors dropped the case against Urtusuastegui four days after her arrest. But because ICE had been notified, Urtusuastegui was placed on an immigration hold and was not immediately eligible for bail, she said. Her husband was not charged, she said.
She said she was transported to Park County jail, some 75 miles away, where word came 13 days after her arrest that she was being released.
An application for legal status filed by her father in 1996, when she was teenager, had come through and she was granted a work visa, said Wallace, the ACLU attorney, and Urtusuastegui. The visa allows Urtusuastegui to work and live in the U.S. while she awaits approval of her permanent resident application. Urtusuastegui is originally from Mexico.
"I know that what I went through is nothing," Urtusuastegui said. "I know of cases where other women have been through worse."
Wallace said the other two documented cases involve women who did not wish to be identified because their immigration cases are pending.
She would like to see Garfield County adopt a policy similar to some other Colorado jurisdictions, like nearby Mesa County, where deputies wait until convictions in domestic violence cases to report suspected undocumented immigrants to ICE.
"We want effective law enforcement," Wallace said.
 This is based on a story by The Associated Press.


Read more: http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/politics/2012/05/24/colorado-undocumented-woman-turned-over-to-immigration-after-making-domestic/#ixzz1w7TfdCrq

Stearns County Domestic Violence Court entering fourth year, seeing success

What a great article about Domestic Violence Court working and putting the abusers in their place.

Julie Miessen just wanted the police to put a scare into the man who had abused her, followed her from northern Minnesota when she left him and threatened to kill her and their child.
Then she got to court and realized that Stearns County prosecutors had more in mind than a wake-up call for her ex-boyfriend. And she was mad about it and let everyone know.
She had effectively sent him to jail by calling the police when he violated an order for protection. If she didn’t at least appear to be doing all she could to get him out of jail, she feared what would happen when he was released.So she went to Anna Marie’s Alliance to fulfill the requirements of Stearns County’s Domestic Violence Court, which was where her ex-boyfriend’s case ended up. She was at Anna Marie’s to go through the motions, she thought — to watch a video and set up a safety plan that would allow her to drop the no-contact order.
“Of course, I didn’t have a very good attitude,” Miessen said.
That changed quickly, though.
“We watched a video about how domestic abuse affects children. Wow. I was like, ‘No way.’ There’s no way I’m doing this to my kid. My kid doesn’t deserve that,” she said.
Another woman was cracking jokes about the video and the safety plan requirement. Miessen confronted her, telling the woman that the video had changed her and her attitude about what to do about the abuse.
“I’m not going to let my kids go through that,” she recalls saying that day. “That was my turnaround point. And I think I’ve apologized to everybody in Stearns County for how I’ve treated them.”
That turnaround is one of the dramatic signs of success for the Stearns County Domestic Violence Court. It has survived on $1 million worth of grants since it began three years ago and soon will become a permanent part of the Stearns County criminal justice system budget.
It’s stories like Miessen’s that show how the DVC is saving money and lives by putting the worst of the worst domestic violence offenders under a microscope of strict supervision and swift sanctions for violations.
“What we are doing here is homicide prevention,” Stearns County Attorney Janelle Kendall said. “We’ve gone from one group of guys committing three assaults a year to a total of five assaults out of 136 guys in three years.”
The success of the program was highlighted again earlier this month when Sen. Amy Klobuchar visited St. Cloud to hear testimonials about the DVC’s effectiveness. Klobuchar was working on congressional renewal of the Violence Against Women Act that helps fund such programs.
“It’s a really great story of getting things started and then institutionalizing it in a way where you learn that it saves money and saves lives,” Klobuchar said.

Close monitoring

When the court started in May 2009, the previous seven homicides in Stearns County were related to domestic violence. Domestic violence accounted for 40 percent of court appearances in which a defendant stayed in jail until they made their first court appearance, Kendall said.
The cases were cycling through the system, but the courts weren’t slowing them down or stopping the violence. Children witnessing the abuse were more likely to be the next generation of abusers.
“We decided to take on the worst of the worst,” Kendall said.
That meant closer monitoring of the offenders accepted into DVC. A surveillance agent and probation agent in a three-month period make as many as 4,000 contacts with about 40 offenders. Each offender is required to call in daily to report where they are.
There are random visits to the offender; random drug and alcohol tests; and help with mental health issues, counseling and medical assistance, among other things. Police now have access to offender and victim records through squad-car computers so they know exactly what restrictions have been placed on each offender and who their victims are.
There is voice recognition software in the jail and monitoring of jail phone calls so no-contact orders can be enforced if an offender calls a victim. GPS units track offenders, and expanded use of arrest-and-detain orders give law enforcement more tools to protect victims.
“This is a different way of doing business,” said Lt. Jim Mortenson of the St. Cloud Police Department.
He’s part of the Stearns County Domestic Violence Partnership, a collaboration of law enforcement, judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, county human services, legal aid and domestic violence prevention advocates.
The partnership is vital to the court, which handled 129 offenders through the end of 2011. By the end of 2011, 120 of them had pleaded guilty to their crimes, and 52 had gone to prison. Only nine had graduated to traditional probation supervision.
The focus isn’t just on the offender. St. Cloud Area Legal Services provided services to 115 of the victims of those offenders. Included among those services is child protection and establishing and enforcing child support, housing, medical assistance and help with transportation and day care.
“What is important to the victim here is oftentimes these are the areas of control that the offender has over the victim,” said Mark Sizer, county human services administrator. “She doesn’t have a place to live. She doesn’t have a vehicle, transportation, child care. And we can assist with those needs.”

'On my own'

One of the cases Sizer highlighted during Klobuchar’s visit to St. Cloud was Miessen’s. He told the senator of the day Miessen’s ex-boyfriend got out of jail and immediately violated a no-contact order by calling a third party with a request to set up a meeting between her and him.
When Miessen’s ex-boyfriend walked into the downtown St. Cloud Perkins, the DVC surveillance agent and police were waiting for him. He was arrested on his birthday, less than an hour after being released from jail where he was in custody from a previous no-contact order violation.
By then, Miessen was a believer in domestic violence court. Initially she just wanted to please the man who had abused her so his harm wouldn’t spread to her daughter and to her extended family.
“The fear of knowing that they will hurt you and your family is enough to keep you with somebody,” she said. “He could hurt me. I didn’t want him hurting my family. When you feel so low and have such low self-esteem, it’s hard to leave. It’s what you know. That’s the life I led for three years.”
She had cursed the domestic violence court staff, refused to cooperate with its policies and held onto the hope that her abuser’s “I’m sorrys” would one day lead to a change in him.
But the no-contact order violations continued, as did the threats. He enrolled in classes at the same college where Miessen enrolled, sometimes taking the same classes. He confronted her while she was studying in the commons area, in the parking lot and over the phone.
If the video at Anna Marie’s was her turning point, the followup support was what kept her on her new path.
She spoke often to a victim advocate and would get calls — often on weekends — from surveillance agent Bill Nelson, just checking in to see how she was doing.
There were times when he dropped whatever he was doing — and at odd hours — to come to her house when she needed help.
“They made me realize I can do it on my own,” Miessen said. “And to this day he still wants me dead. But I’m not letting that control my life. I want to help people that are in this situation and let them know there are resources and you can get out and you can do it.”
That turnaround was significant for Kendall, who said Miessen was one of the first victims who initially was combative and who later embraced the domestic violence court approach. She hopes more do the same.
Half of the offenders in the DVC make it and half don’t, she said. There are services there to help the offenders change their behavior and stay out of custody. And there are swift consequences, including significant prison terms, for those who refuse to change.
“We put the keys to the jail or the prison in his hands. If he’s not going to make it, then let’s get there. And we’re getting that done twice as fast,” Kendall said. “So you’re figuring out which are which a lot more quickly by giving him opportunities. And sometimes they make it, and when they don’t, let’s not mess around.”
“What we are doing here is homicide prevention,” Stearns County Attorney Janelle Kendall said. “We’ve gone from one group of guys committing three assaults a year to a total of five assaults out of 136 guys in three years.”
The success of the program was highlighted again earlier this month when Sen. Amy Klobuchar visited St. Cloud to hear testimonials about the DVC’s effectiveness. Klobuchar was working on congressional renewal of the Violence Against Women Act that helps fund such programs.
“It’s a really great story of getting things started and then institutionalizing it in a way where you learn that it saves money and saves lives,” Klobuchar said.

Close monitoring

When the court started in May 2009, the previous seven homicides in Stearns County were related to domestic violence. Domestic violence accounted for 40 percent of court appearances in which a defendant stayed in jail until they made their first court appearance, Kendall said.
The cases were cycling through the system, but the courts weren’t slowing them down or stopping the violence. Children witnessing the abuse were more likely to be the next generation of abusers.
“We decided to take on the worst of the worst,” Kendall said.
That meant closer monitoring of the offenders accepted into DVC. A surveillance agent and probation agent in a three-month period make as many as 4,000 contacts with about 40 offenders. Each offender is required to call in daily to report where they are.
There are random visits to the offender; random drug and alcohol tests; and help with mental health issues, counseling and medical assistance, among other things. Police now have access to offender and victim records through squad-car computers so they know exactly what restrictions have been placed on each offender and who their victims are.
There is voice recognition software in the jail and monitoring of jail phone calls so no-contact orders can be enforced if an offender calls a victim. GPS units track offenders, and expanded use of arrest-and-detain orders give law enforcement more tools to protect victims.
“This is a different way of doing business,” said Lt. Jim Mortenson of the St. Cloud Police Department.
He’s part of the Stearns County Domestic Violence Partnership, a collaboration of law enforcement, judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, county human services, legal aid and domestic violence prevention advocates.
The partnership is vital to the court, which handled 129 offenders through the end of 2011. By the end of 2011, 120 of them had pleaded guilty to their crimes, and 52 had gone to prison. Only nine had graduated to traditional probation supervision.
The focus isn’t just on the offender. St. Cloud Area Legal Services provided services to 115 of the victims of those offenders. Included among those services is child protection and establishing and enforcing child support, housing, medical assistance and help with transportation and day care.
“What is important to the victim here is oftentimes these are the areas of control that the offender has over the victim,” said Mark Sizer, county human services administrator. “She doesn’t have a place to live. She doesn’t have a vehicle, transportation, child care. And we can assist with those needs.”

'On my own'

One of the cases Sizer highlighted during Klobuchar’s visit to St. Cloud was Miessen’s. He told the senator of the day Miessen’s ex-boyfriend got out of jail and immediately violated a no-contact order by calling a third party with a request to set up a meeting between her and him.
When Miessen’s ex-boyfriend walked into the downtown St. Cloud Perkins, the DVC surveillance agent and police were waiting for him. He was arrested on his birthday, less than an hour after being released from jail where he was in custody from a previous no-contact order violation.
By then, Miessen was a believer in domestic violence court. Initially she just wanted to please the man who had abused her so his harm wouldn’t spread to her daughter and to her extended family.
“The fear of knowing that they will hurt you and your family is enough to keep you with somebody,” she said. “He could hurt me. I didn’t want him hurting my family. When you feel so low and have such low self-esteem, it’s hard to leave. It’s what you know. That’s the life I led for three years.”
She had cursed the domestic violence court staff, refused to cooperate with its policies and held onto the hope that her abuser’s “I’m sorrys” would one day lead to a change in him.
But the no-contact order violations continued, as did the threats. He enrolled in classes at the same college where Miessen enrolled, sometimes taking the same classes. He confronted her while she was studying in the commons area, in the parking lot and over the phone.
If the video at Anna Marie’s was her turning point, the followup support was what kept her on her new path.
She spoke often to a victim advocate and would get calls — often on weekends — from surveillance agent Bill Nelson, just checking in to see how she was doing.
There were times when he dropped whatever he was doing — and at odd hours — to come to her house when she needed help.
“They made me realize I can do it on my own,” Miessen said. “And to this day he still wants me dead. But I’m not letting that control my life. I want to help people that are in this situation and let them know there are resources and you can get out and you can do it.”
That turnaround was significant for Kendall, who said Miessen was one of the first victims who initially was combative and who later embraced the domestic violence court approach. She hopes more do the same.
Half of the offenders in the DVC make it and half don’t, she said. There are services there to help the offenders change their behavior and stay out of custody. And there are swift consequences, including significant prison terms, for those who refuse to change.
“We put the keys to the jail or the prison in his hands. If he’s not going to make it, then let’s get there. And we’re getting that done twice as fast,” Kendall said. “So you’re figuring out which are which a lot more quickly by giving him opportunities. And sometimes they make it, and when they don’t, let’s not mess around.”

http://www.sctimes.com/article/20120527/NEWS01/305270029/Stearns-County-Domestic-Violence-Court-entering-fourth-year-seeing-success?odyssey=nav%7Chead&nclick_check=1

BIB Pre Pageant Workshop

I had a blast working with the fabulous contestants during the Building Inner Beauty Pre Pageant Workshop on Saturday. All of the contestant are bright, driven, and overall fabulous young girls that will accomplish many great things in life. I can't wait for next weeks pre pageant workshop and then pageant day.
Dream...Believe...Achieve and BE FABULOUS!!!

Rustie J

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

New Doors Are Opening...

This week has been a fabulous week so far for new partnerships. I can't talk about my up coming partnership just yet. But what I can tell you is that I am very excited for this a grand opportunity. I will be part of the awareness and education of domestic violence in Dallas-Ft. Forth and beyond. Networking is a powerful tool and it is because of the International pageant system that new doors are opening. Keep checking back for information on my new partnership.

Until then....Be FABULOUS!!

Rustie J

The Pictures Are In.......

Below are some of my favorite pictures of pageant weekend and the pageant taken by the fabulous Doug Carter of Creative Images. Enjoy.....
Opening Number Rehearsals

Opening Number Rehearsals

Autograph Signing

Autograph Signing

The FABULOUS Miss Contestants

Getting my makeup done by the FABULOUS Shelia!

Eating...yes we eat

On Stage Interview

On Stage Interview

Opening Number

Fitness

Fitness

Fun Fashion

Fun Fashion

Fun Fashion

Fun Fashion

Fun Fashion

Evening Gown

Evening Gown

Evening Gown

Evening Gown

Evening Gown

Evening Gown

I won the honor of Miss Congeniality!!

Sunday, May 20, 2012

What Defines a Libra....

I found this picture that describes a Libra and they are so right about us. We are absolutely FABULOUS!!! Maybe this is why "fabulous" is my word...it was in the stars:).


Rustie J

Inspiration

Below is a collection of my top inspiration quotes I have pinned on Pinterest. I believe that all of these are words to live by. I hope these inspire you as much as they have inspired me.














Rustie J